A Research on Emotion Psychology Whether in the workplace or in life, do you often see various small theaters in your heart? Or feel so...
A Research on Emotion Psychology
Whether in the workplace or in life, do you often see various small theaters in your heart? Or feel so entangled and wronged? Are you always worried and anxious about "clearly working hard, but the result is not as expected"? Have you ever lost control and exploded because you accumulated too much dissatisfaction, but regretted it and blamed yourself? Psychological counselor Song Xiaodong pointed out that your emotions are determined by yourself, or are they fluctuating with the actions of others? In fact, as long as you change the perspective of looking at things, you can live more comfortably and make people live beyond imagination.
Song Xiaodong believes that when you are born, you will inevitably be unhappy because of various emergencies. However, only you can decide whether to be angry, and only you can make yourself happy. If you want to manage your emotions well, you must learn the following things, such as changing your negative thinking habits and regaining the dominance of emotions; hearing others’ denials and criticisms, responding calmly and gracefully; facing unreasonable requests, how to cleverly reject them; Get rid of perfectionism and self-doubt, build self-confidence; effectively resolve negative thoughts, and turn your mood from cloudy to sunny
Imagine that when I went to work in the morning, I saw my boss in the hallway of the company. He smiled and waved his hand to greet him. But I don't know why, but the other party ignored you. What kind of thoughts will you have at this time? What kind of emotional reaction?
Song Xiaodong shared that he had asked many students in class, and the answers they got were strange. The students’ answers are divided into two categories, one is pessimistic and the other is optimistic. The pessimists’ answers include: awful, maybe something has offended my boss recently; I am always an unpleasant person, etc. The emotional reaction of the pessimist is to be a little sad, feeling heavy all morning, or persistently depressed.
No matter what bad things happen, optimists can always try to adjust their perceptions to control their emotions, so as to be more actively involved in work and life. Pessimists are easily swallowed up by negative thoughts and emotions, and they appear timid and worried.
"Over time, people who can control emotions will live and become more successful, and those who cannot control emotions will live and become frustrated." Song Xiaodong said whether the world that everyone perceives is happy or sad, often not. It depends on what the world itself looks like, and it depends on the cognitive way we look at the world.
If we do not actively control our emotions, then we will be controlled by our emotions. In the same way, if we do not take the initiative to control our lives, we will follow the trend and be controlled by life. For more information, please refer to the "Emotional Control, Determine Your Life Style: Don't let 1% of your emotions get out of control, ruining 99% of your efforts."
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